The Voice of Doom

The hardest thing about getting ideas is that little voice in your head that tells you all your ideas are no good. We all have that voice. Even professional writers get it every time they sit down to write. And you can’t make that voice go away. If you wait for it (more…)

In my earlier article, I already wrote my opinion that credit card drive you crazy and can lead you into huge debt just because you do not aware about your financial condition, you do not know how to make a good (more…)

The aim of a piece of imaginative writing is to entertain the reader, so that means we’ll be trying to think of entertaining ideas. That’s a big ask. Very few people can think of entertaining ideas straight off. So—we’ll work up to it. I’ll start by asking my brain (more…)

Arms Spread While Hands Grip Edge of Table (Figure 34). This is a strong “Listen to me, damn it, I have something to say” position while sitting or standing. Picture the situation where the subordinate takes this position and says to his superior, “You can’t fire me, I quit.” This condition can lead to a terrible predicament if you do not recognize the gesture and the emotions that are about to be released by the other person. Displayed by your child, employee, boss, customer — or whomever — it should be recognized and accommodated. One should not stretch out another’s emotions to the point where they will snap. We have (more…)

Many of us, regardless of age or sex, take the hands-on-hips position. A high achiever often does so as he nonverbally communicates his dedication to a goal. With some, the gesture that accompanies the hands-on-hips stance is hitching up the trousers, as a well-known professional golfer is often seen doing.
You will also note that when the hands are placed on the hips the legs are apart, as it is difficult to maintain balance if the feet are together. A variation of this gesture is a seated person with one hand on his mid-thigh and leaning slightly forward (Figure 33). (more…)

INthis chapter, as in the previous one, the positive, constructive attitudes are contrasted with the negative ones. At the same time, every other attitude has emotional similarities with those preceding it and following it. A comparison of their similarities and differences will enable you to more readily appreciate the attitude described. (more…)

On a television interview show, a well-known news commentator was asked, “What will historians think of today’s youth and their ideals?” The commentator, who most likely had been trained to keep his hands away from his face when speaking, still brought his index finger to the side of his nose, then said, “I believe historians will see today’s youth as the greatest patriots this country has ever had.” If the nose-touching/rubbinggesture communicates doubt or negation, then how might the commentator’s doubts be viewed? (1) Whether to answer the question at all. (2) Whether he really believed what he was (more…)

We are counting down the days, new year only 3 days away. All of you are probably still having fun holidays. (more…)

It is indeed an observant subordinate who is able to read his boss’s gesture when it means that the meeting is at an end. If the employee is aware of this signal and lets his boss leave, he will have assisted his employer, which will be appreciated. However, if he delays his superior, the boss will resent it and thereafter close his mind to everything the employee says. (more…)

All the gestures that communicate suspicion, uncertainty, rejection, and doubt essentially have a common message: negative! The emphasis differs, as do the accompanying emotions, but the signal is usually loud and clear; “I’m not buying.”

A certain portion of what we say to others is received with suspicion, uncertainty, rejection, and doubt. When they feel this way about what we are saying, they nonverbally feed back their attitude. The most obvious gestures of the rejection-cluster are folded arms, moving the body away, crossed legs, and tilting (more…)